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What Two Basic Traits Make For Long Lasting Relationships?

People always ask me what I think are the key factors to having a healthy relationship. My answer is always the same COMMUNICATION. All problems can be solved with great communication. Open and honest communication can build amazing intimacy. And with great communication and amazing intimacy you can establish a solid foundation for your relationship. Interestingly, a scientific experiment was conducted to discover what traits are important for lasting relationships. Here are the results. Do you agree with their conclusion? Or find it surprising?

The Day I Realized I Was No Longer The Woman My Husband Wanted!

It's so easy to lose ourselves when life gets in the way and usually our relationships suffer greatly,  sometimes beyond repair. This article is a great reminder how to not let that happen. Here are some tips on how to stay true to yourself and keep your relationship fun and exciting.

Is Your Relationship Totally Off the Hook?! Or Are You Actually ..."On the Hook?"

The dreaded term "on the hook" was made popular by the TV show "How I Met Your Mother," and it revealed a phenomenon that is all too common today. Most of us have been strung along at some point in our lives by a significant other (or have even strung others along). You know what I'm talkin' about. When that one person you're most connected to, or maybe even in love with, has given you false hope, leading you to believe that maybe someday they'll be ready to be in a real relationship with you. Just "not right now." They don't want you, but they don't want you out of the picture either, so they keep you at arms length, hooked!!

You took the bait. You were reeled in. And now there you are, dangling from that hook. Just waiting. Waiting to see if you're a keeper, or a throw back. Since you haven't been let off the hook, then certainly you're a keeper, right?  Sound familiar?  

If you've found yourself on the hook, for a few months, or even years, you're not alone.  We've all been there. The important thing is that you step back, see the big picture, and realize your situation is going nowhere. Remember, only you have the power to change your situation, create a standard for yourself and a boundary for your man. Trust me, you'll find it freeing and healing when you do.  However, we can all only reach that conclusion when we are truly ready to detach our hearts, and everyone's timing is different.

Many women ask me why a man would keep them on the hook. I have a few theories.

1. Ego - Some men like to know that there's a woman nearby who feels the way you do. It feeds their ego. They keep you around solely to access that feeling of being loved, even though it's unrequited love.
2. Sex - I'll be honest. Some men will keep you around just for sex. They know you are a sure thing, so why not?
3. Backup - Some men will want you in the wings, just in case something better doesn't come along. You're the fallback girl.

None of these are self esteem builders, or make us feel good as women, that's for sure!  So cut your losses and move forward.  If you need help be sure to read my book, Girlfriend 911 - Decoding Dating and Rescuing Relationships One Girlfriend at a Time:  It's a real game changer.  I'm here for you, girlfriend! You can also contact me at

Emotionally Shut Down Men. Who's To Blame?

How many of you ladies out there have dealt with emotionally shut down men? Men who refuse to communicate their feelings, disappear when things seem to be going great, and leave you trying to figure out what they're thinking, and what you've done wrong to make them act in such a maddening and frustrating manner. Here's a great article from a man's point of view that might help explain why men are conditioned to behave this way. Is it the fault of the men? Or the women?