I'm A Guy Who Stopped Dating Because I Found The Next Best Thing!

This came up on my Facebook feed as a memory and I thought it was worth reposting:

Some interesting advice from a man's point of view about what it's like out there to date!

It's refreshing to actually hear a man say that men have soured the world of dating for him with their games and their hookup philosophies. Here's a man who'd rather be true to himself, feed his soul, and wait to see what the universe brings him. He's done competing with other men whose intentions aren't honorable, stating the following, "Yes, I’m a guy, and yes, I’m saying men ruined dating. Why? Well, for the most part, men are devoted players with phobias for commitment and settling down. They’re devoted to the method of being pick-up artists while tallying the number of times they scored along the way."

Obviously this isn't all men, but let's face it, dating is a very different scene today than it was ten plus years ago. The days of courting and romance are practically nonexistent. It's sad really, as courting is probably the most exciting and exhilarating part of getting to know someone new, something I talk about extensively in my book, GIRLFRIEND 911. At the end of the day we are all looking for the same thing--LOVE. But how can anyone find the real deal? You do exactly as this gentleman did. You let it be organic. elitedai.ly/1HhcBUs

Why Modern Dating Makes Me Want To Punch Myself In The Throat!

This is an awesome article and a definite must read!!! I love how the author just tells it like it is.  Unfortunately, she's correct – it is pretty darn depressing out there trying to navigate  the very complicated world of dating and relationships.

"Don’t ask to hangout two nights in a row. If you texted first last time, you have to wait for him to text you first this time. Don’t double text. You can’t assume anything is more than casual, even if you’re having sex. But you can’t talk about it either. If you’re wondering where a relationship is going and you decide to bring it up, every word you say has to be carefully chosen so as to seem okay with any response you’re given, even if you’re not. Everything is done through texting. It’s weird to call someone in the modern world just to have a conversation or try to make plans, so we’re forced to wait anxiously for a response that might not ever come."

In my book GIRLFRIEND 911 I offer women tons of advice as to how to figure this stuff out so it's not so complicated and frustrating.  Starting with: Be real, be honest with your thoughts and feelings, don't play games, mean what you say and say what you mean, communicate how you are truly feeling – what you need and what you want out of any given situation – and watch things become a lot more simplified:   http://tcat.tc/1U90NMj

18 Awesome Date Night Ideas!

If you're tired of having the same old date nights and they're getting boring, here are some cool ideas to spice things up that don't include "Netflix," or "chilling!" http://bit.ly/1THtr5d

4 Ways To Make Love Without Taking Your Clothes Off!

Did you know that physical intimacy is not the only way you can make love to your partner?  There are other ways to "make love" that can deepen your bond and intensify your intimacy, and they don't involve taking your clothes off. Here are some great examples: http://bit.ly/1QzHkNZ

Why More Women Are Letting Their Husbands Cheat!

According to this article, the latest trend in making your relationship/marriage work is to hash out a contract that allows each partner to get something they really want. For example, the husband agrees his wife can have a fifth child if that is what she wants. While the wife consents to an infidelity clause that allows her husband to cheat with other women on a strictly annual basis, if that is what he wants. This sounds absolutely crazy to me, but I'm curious to hear your thoughts. Is this a great new way to make your marriage work? Or a disaster waiting to happen? http://nyp.st/1V7psSx

Trust Your Own Instincts!

This was sent to me by a client and couldn't be more true! I talk about listening to your gut and not relying on other people's opinions in my book, GIRLFRIEND 911. Only YOU know what's best for you. So trust your instincts. #mondaymusings

If It's Not Working, Let It Go!

I absolutely love this, because what it's really saying is you can only try so hard and then you just have to surrender, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. If it's meant to be, it will be. If it isn't, you have to walk away. You can't keep pushing, trying to make a square peg fit into a round hole. I talk about the ability to surrender and relinquish control in my book, GIRLFRIEND 911. It's hard to let go and let things happen organically, but seriously if the door is not opening easily and effortlessly, then perhaps it's not your door!!