GIRLFRIEND 911 THE BOOK -- Learn How To Tap Into Your Own Power!

My book, Girlfriend 911, is not just a book about how to have a healthy relationship.  Its bigger message is how to tap into your own power, and how to find and keep your self-worth and self-respect -- traits so many women sadly lack these days.  The lessons and themes in Girlfriend 911 resonate with women who have lost their way when it comes to dating and relationships. Here’s an email I  received from a Girlfriend 911 reader that perfectly encapsulates what my book is all about, and why women are forever changed in the best way possible after they read it:

Dear Jacquee,

Thank you for answering my email! I appreciate your input and advice. My boyfriend and I talked, and I am willing to move forward slowly with him as long as he adheres to my standards. If not, he is gone. Thank you for helping me get my dignity back. I was in a bad marriage for a long time and I lost my sense of worth. I now have it back, and whether it works out with this man or I have to move on, I know I will be fine. I refuse to settle ever again. 

All the best,

The Importance of SELF love!

In my book, Girlfriend 911, I talk about how every relationship you're in starts and ends with YOU. YOU have to be okay with yourself, you have to be connected to your Authentic, True self and you have to always be in your power.  How do you do that? Create a set of standards for yourself and boundaries for those around you.

Respect your SELF, love your SELF be okay with YOU. If you are you'll never allow anyone to treat you badly, or take you for granted. Here's a great guide to SELF love by Louise Hay, check it out:

10 Signs You're His One That Got Away!

Why does it take men so long to identify their true feelings for us, when as women we tend to know immediately (sometimes after one date) when we've met our match? Far too often men stuff their feelings down and deny their hearts. I get it, love is a scary thing, but unless you give it an honest chance, you'll never know what you could've had. True love and deep connection tend to freak men out. Sadly, in many cases, men flee and let the love of their life pass them by. Hindsight is always 20/20. Are you his one that got away? Check out these 10 signs that you might be.


This supermoon has been one powerful moon especially in the area of love, because the supermoon is in Taurus, and Taurus is governed by Venus, the Goddess of Love. If you have someone special in your life your affections will be stronger, and if you don't this is a great time to meet someone new.

Also, during this time of heightened moon energy you need to remember to be good to yourself. Self-love is a powerful form of love that most of us seem to neglect. Check out what astrologer "moon woman" says about taking care of ourselves during a super full moon:

"Yes, we're bathing in the energies of the Super full moon in Taurus. So this is likely to:

- amplify emotional situations, bringing any unresolved situations to a head
- intensify feelings of anxiety / depression for those who are energetically sensitive
- heighten urges to self-soothe with sensual pleasure, like comfort eating and sex
- illuminate any issues round finances, property & possessions that have been hidden

Full Moon in Taurus is likely to elicit our lessons in love. Why?
Taurus is governed by Venus, the Roman name for the Goddess of Love.
So if we've neglected to fill our cup of self-love with regular acts of kindness, tenderness and appreciation, this full moon we'll pine or wish for someone else to fill our cup for us. How?
Adorning us with trinkets and affection, words of reassurance affirming how loveable & beautiful we are or action which proves we are the 'the fairest one of all'.
All of this is narcissistic love. The desires of one who is emotionally immature.
Alternatively, our lack of self love may show up as physical ailments since Taurus is an Earth sign. So if you've been comforting yourself with foods that appease your inner child but aren't really helpful to your body this is when your body is likely to ensure you put an end to that.
Ultimately, self love is a practice - daily choices which reflect reverence, genuine care and respect for ourselves and our needs...something most of us know is important, but find it a challenge to ensure it remains a priority on a daily basis."

FROM THE MAN’S POINT OF VIEW - What is the biggest turn on for a man?

I’ve noticed over the years that when dating and relationship advice comes from a guy, women pay more attention and listen just a little bit harder. I get it – you want to know what he’s thinking, and how what you do affects him. With that in mind, I wanted to share this “Jake” column with you from an issue of Glamour magazine.

 (“Jake” is the pseudonym for the magazine’s relationship columnist who provides dating advice from the male point of view).  Thanks, “Jake,” for confirming what I always knew to be true!  Check it out Ladies. If you want to learn how to change your behavior, adjust your attitude, and become self-empowered then check out my book, GIRLFRIEND 911.

“Two years or so into my life as Jake, you see, I started dating a woman I code-named Orange Blossoms (due to her insanely intoxicating perfume). We were nuts about each other, but she pushed hard for commitment, and I felt trapped. Much to the horror of my readers (and they were very vocal), I broke up with her. Months later I bumped into Blossoms at a real estate open house, and I realized she had changed. Whether consciously or not, she had tapped into some secret reservoir of power. "I thought you were responsible for making me happy and responsible for when I wasn't," she told me. "That wasn't fair." I'd never seen her so strong, and suddenly I wanted nothing more than to be with her, to make her happy. That's when it hit me: Every month, all those cute, desirable, frustrated-in-love women who wrote me letters asking me how to get men to notice them, to love them, to commit? They would never get anywhere trying to change their boyfriends. What they needed to change was their own attitude. This is what Jake has been trying to tell women for 56 years, and it's what I'm saying to you now: Women, you have no freaking idea how powerful you really are.”

Dear Girlfriend 911 - Send Me Your Dating And Relationship Questions

Single? Divorced? Dating? Do you want to fix a relationship that's not working...and learn healthy dating/relationship habits? Send me questions that you have about all your dating and relationship issues? I'm here to answer them.
Email me at:

Dear Girlfriend 911,

Please could you help me out.

I'm in desperate need to get over a guy that I dated for two years and am still madly in love with. The problem is he cheated on me with his ex, who is also the mother of his kids.

How can I get him out of my life and move on?


Dear Leeann,

My advice would be to buy a copy of my book, Girlfriend 911, and follow the steps I lay out in my proven “Girlfriend 911” program.

You will learn the following: 

• How to stop making decisions based on the fear of being alone

• How to set standards and boundaries and avoid being taken for       granted

•How your actions can actually cause the opposite reaction you’re hoping for

•The best way to spell out exactly what you want from the relationship 

•How to really deal with a man who can’t commit—without compromise

If you read my book and listen to everything I tell you to do you’ll be able to take control of your life, stop being the victim and repeating old negative patterns, get in the driver’s seat and take your power back. It sounds to me like you need a good dose of SELF LOVE. 

Remember, it always hurts when relationships don’t work out, but losing someone who doesn’t appreciate and respect you is actually a gain, not a loss. I think you will need to do a lot of work on yourself so that you can get to a point where you not only understand this, but you truly believe it. Then you’ll have no problem getting rid of and getting over a man who is cheating on you, because you’re feel worthy enough to understand you deserve better!

My book is available on Amazon. Here’s the link:

Girlfriend 911