According to this article, the latest trend in making your relationship/marriage work is to hash out a contract that allows each partner to get something they really want. For example, the husband agrees his wife can have a fifth child if that is what she wants. While the wife consents to an infidelity clause that allows her husband to cheat with other women on a strictly annual basis, if that is what he wants. This sounds absolutely crazy to me, but I'm curious to hear your thoughts. Is this a great new way to make your marriage work? Or a disaster waiting to happen? http://nyp.st/1V7psSx
I absolutely love this, because what it's really saying is you can only try so hard and then you just have to surrender, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. If it's meant to be, it will be. If it isn't, you have to walk away. You can't keep pushing, trying to make a square peg fit into a round hole. I talk about the ability to surrender and relinquish control in my book, GIRLFRIEND 911. It's hard to let go and let things happen organically, but seriously if the door is not opening easily and effortlessly, then perhaps it's not your door!!
It's always interesting to hear the man's point of view. I know so many women with big hearts who have so much love to give and yet they either can't seem to find the right person to give it to, or they give too much of themselves and get little in return. I think it's amazing that this guy wants a woman who "will be there for you when life kicks you down ... someone who will give you advice or a helping hand. Whether you’re worried, sad or happy, she’s there ... a woman with a huge heart." But ladies, always make sure that the scales are equal -- you get as much as you give. That's one key ingredient to a healthy, happy and long-lasting relationship.
Why do women always find a 101 excuses why men don't text or call them? And when they don't hear from them, why do they text and call way too often just to make certain they haven't forgotten about them? The truth is, when a man is ready for a commitment, ready to be in a relationship, ready to be with you, nothing will stop him from stepping it up and sending you all the right signals so you never have to worry that he's not into you. I came across this blurb on my
Facebook feed and it just reinforced for me everything I talk about in my book GIRLFRIEND 911. When a man is truly interested in you he will move mountains to be with you. That's it. Period.
"When a man is truly interested in you, there will be no need for you to do the pursuing. Men are born to pursue women. Yes, you can pursue a man if you want to, but in most cases that's just an obvious sign that he's not into you. It's not natural for a man to sit back and let the woman do all the work. For a man who claims to like you to sit back and allow you to do all of the calling, texting, dating arrangements, talks about the future etc...it's pretty obvious where you stand in that man's life. When a man really wants you, you won't have to chase after him like he's some celebrity who barely has time for a fan. You will be his priority!"