A client of mine made a choice to get into a "friends with benefits" situation with no rules, no boundaries, and no strings attached. Now after 3 months of great sex and intense chemistry she wants more, but she's not sure if her guy feels the same way. She's been reading the signs, and based on his behavior, she's afraid he doesn't. She sent me this great article, and I especially like number five; "when a woman has sex with a man, oxytocin is released and she will stay bonded with him for up to 3 weeks. Sex doesn’t bond him to you. You have the potential to get hurt from this type of relationship because he’s not into you in the same way you’re into him." I think the lesson here is “friends with benefits” rarely works because 99% of time one person always wants more, and it's usually the woman. So my advice is to skip the “friends with benefits” situation and wait instead for a committed relationship with rules, and boundaries and healthy expectations, where both parties are on the same page. In this scenario, at least you know where you stand and you have a greater chance of protecting your heart. http://huff.to/28XOgHJ
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