You took the bait. You were reeled in. And now there you are, dangling from that hook. Just waiting. Waiting to see if you're a keeper, or a throw back. Since you haven't been let off the hook, then certainly you're a keeper, right? Sound familiar?
If you've found yourself on the hook, for a few months, or even years, you're not alone. We've all been there. The important thing is that you step back, see the big picture, and realize your situation is going nowhere. Remember, only you have the power to change your situation, create a standard for yourself and a boundary for your man. Trust me, you'll find it freeing and healing when you do. However, we can all only reach that conclusion when we are truly ready to detach our hearts, and everyone's timing is different.
Many women ask me why a man would keep them on the hook. I have a few theories.
1. Ego - Some men like to know that there's a woman nearby who feels the way you do. It feeds their ego. They keep you around solely to access that feeling of being loved, even though it's unrequited love.
2. Sex - I'll be honest. Some men will keep you around just for sex. They know you are a sure thing, so why not?
3. Backup - Some men will want you in the wings, just in case something better doesn't come along. You're the fallback girl.
None of these are self esteem builders, or make us feel good as women, that's for sure! So cut your losses and move forward. If you need help be sure to read my book, Girlfriend 911 - Decoding Dating and Rescuing Relationships One Girlfriend at a Time: http://amzn.to/1tytbG7 It's a real game changer. I'm here for you, girlfriend! You can also contact me at Girlfriend911@live.com