As I write in Chapter 4, A Girlfriend's Guide to Self, if you "recognize that what you’ve been doing isn’t working and you’re serious about wanting to make changes in your life. Consider this your wake-up call. It’s time for a reality check; let go of old behaviors, patterns, and habits, and figure out who you really want to be with. Stop making excuses. Put aside what everyone else thinks and tells you and start looking within—to your True Self—to find the answers. When I am connected to my truth—operating from a completely truthful, authentic place—I call that my True Self. Your True Self is your gut, your instinct, your soul. It’s your purest, most honest, most genuine part of who you are. Your True Self is the true you. The True Self exists in everyone."